Infidelity is increasingly becoming more common that it scarcely raises an eyebrow when it’s found out. Nevertheless for people who are personally affected it truly is a horrible ordeal. Nobody wants to believe the individual they cherish and care for is fooling around on them.
And yet at this point in time that is what your suspicions are telling you regarding your mate. Although you may not have actually caught them in the act there’s little question they are up to something they have no business doing.
The trouble is you can’t go about accusing your mate of carrying on a marital affair without proof to back it up. To do so would merely place you back on your heels.
You must have solid evidence and getting this may be harder than you first thought. This is definitely true in the event your mate has been overly diligent when it comes to covering up their tracks. To carry on with an affair without getting caught involves a tremendous degree of cunning.
The very last thing you ever considered you would encounter in your own marriage is playing cat and mouse with your significant other. Sad to say it has come to that point therefore the question becomes what do you look for?
In terms of cheating more often than not it is not what you observe but what you are being told. In short although your partner is extremely busy hiding the visual indicators, their words may be giving them away.
It’s all too easy to get hung up on the number of hours they may or may not be at their job, the strange phone calls or even personal grooming. These are obvious signs of cheating in a relationship and in reality many two timing spouses have been caught by these indicators. But most of the time you have to go that extra mile to show their unfaithfulness and this is when listening comes into play.
Keeping tabs on the falsehoods being told is intense work for an unfaithful significant other. If they’ve been carrying on a an extramarital affair for quite a while then it is necessary for them to keep in mind the things they told you in a discussion well over a few weeks back.
This can be to your own benefit. Begin jotting down what they say and do a comparison of to what was said previously. Are there any glaring discrepancies? From time to time the discrepancies might be so small that you may quite easily look right past them. This is why it’s to your benefit to keep a personal journal in order to revisit and then examine your spouse’s claims.
Discovering cheating is often a long-drawn-out, frustrating as well as very unpleasant experience. Yet if perhaps your instinct is saying to you something is wrong then it is unquestionably an inescapable process. Just be sure to keep your ears open as well as your eyes.
If your wife has cheated on you, then you already know how devastating infidelity can be. Ease the pain and move towards recovery by learning the truth about why your wife cheated, and what, if anything, you could’ve done to stop it
You know that your wife cheated.
You’re wife’s infidelity has left you shocked.
Affairs are confusing. They don’t make sense.
You’re probably asking yourself…
“Why did my wife cheat on me?”
“What could I have done to stop her from having an affair?”
“Is it my fault that my wife was unfaithful?”
Let’s get one thing straight:
No matter how terrible of a husband you may have been in the past, there is never a situation where your wife “deserves” to have an affair.
No matter what, your wife should not have cheated on you.
No matter what, you should not have been forced to face her infidelity.
It’s not your fault. There’s nothing you could’ve done. She just…Cheated.
But this doesn’t really answer your question…
“Why did my wife cheat on me?”
As you continue reading this article, I’d like to answer some common questions about cheating wives. You’re going to learn three of the most common reasons that women cheat on their husbands.
3 Common Reasons Why Wives Cheat
Please note that these are only three of the hundreds of reasons that women can decide to cheat on their husbands.
In fact, sometimes there is no reason at all.
Some women just can’t be bothered to maintain the sanctity of monogamy in marriage. No two ways about it.
It sounds terrible, but it’s true. It happens.
So take these reasons with a grain of salt; I can’t say for sure what sent your wife down the path of a lying and cheating spouse.
I hope these reasons help you see what relationship or personality problems led to her affair, which will hopefully make it easier to survive infidelity and rebuild trust. Even though it’s hard, empathy and forgiveness will be required to save your marriage.
Reason #1. She Thought She Was In Love With A Crush
Women are very emotional creatures.
Almost every decision they make is based on emotion, or on the way it makes them feel.
For your wife, what feels “right” emotionally is also what makes the most sense logically. Not the other way around.
So, she’s bored in the marriage, or unhappy, or whatever. She feels bad.
What does she do?
Like any rational human being – Nothing at first. She waits to see if those feelings will go away. But, while she’s waiting, she meets someone… Someone she finds herself quite attracted to.
Two months later, your wife still hasn’t made any real effort to improve your marriage, however she has been improving her relationship with this “friend”.
She has a crush.
As time goes on and her resolve weakens, her feelings for this other man become stronger. Then it’s simply a matter of time.
Women are all about feeling. The affair happens when those feelings convince her that infidelity is the right thing to do. A charming new man usually helps speed along the process.
Reason #2. She Was Bored in Her Marriage & Cheating Was Easy
Boredom is part of marriage. That’s not a bad thing, it’s just the way it is. All relationships have their ups and downs.
Unfortunately, our society tells us that “being in love” should be fun all the time.
We live in an era of unreasonable expectations.
It should come as no surprise that newly weds are more likely to cheat. They haven’t yet experienced boredom in their relationship. They automatically assume the marriage was built on sham-love. The affair happens soon after.
The point is this – Boredom can easily lead to strong feelings of dissatisfaction.
If your wife doesn’t fix that dissatisfaction by making an effort to fix your marriage, or if you don’t get your wife back from that boredom, then she will turn to other relationships for that satisfaction she desires.
For her, having an affair is easier and more pleasurable than fixing the problems in your marriage, or making an effort to rekindle lost love.
Reason #3. The New Age Woman is Entitled
All her friends are doing it.
I’m willing to bet a few of your friends are, too.
Marriage is quickly losing its sanctity. Divorce and infidelity rates are the highest that they’ve ever been.
35% to 40% of women have cheated or will and 45 to 50% of men have cheated or will sometime in their lives.
There’s a trend in most popular infidelity-related websites, forums and other online communities that has women proudly proclaiming that they cheat on their husbands and that they’re happy to do it. They say to women just like your wife, “Live a little! Why should men be the only ones who get to have fun?”
Entitlement has become one of the key factors associated with cheating.
What Can You Do About it?
Depends on whether or not you still want to save your marriage.
I will be 100% upfront – a cheating wife is grounds for divorce. Tell yourself the truth; is this something you can recover from? Divorce may be the best route.
As they say, “once a cheater, always a cheater.”
If you haven’t found a suitable answer to “Why did my wife cheat on me?” then proceed with caution. However, if you want to save your marriage, then I encourage you to take things into your own hands.
The last thing that you want to have is problems with your girlfriend. You know what can happen when you start to have problems with a woman you are dating. The relationship can deteriorate, you can end up feeling like you are not really as in love with one another as you were before. And yes, the final outcome can end up being that the relationship comes to an end. Thankfully, you are not in that predicament just yet, but you definitely don’t want to leave things up to chance and risk the possibility that you do end up breaking up.
So, how can you resolve issues that you might be having with a woman you are dating?
Here are 3 ways that you can do this:
1. You can sit down with your girlfriend to discuss what is going on between you and her.
Open communication in a relationship is about the best policy that you can have. When people don’t tell each other how they feel – that is when you really run the risk of growing apart and when you grow apart from someone, the possibility that you could end up breaking up becomes very, very real. So, try to sit down with your girlfriend to discuss the issues that you might be having so at the very least you can get them out in the open,where they need to be.
2. Find a way to have more fun with one another.
When you are really having a lot of fun in a relationship, it doesn’t seem like any issue or problem can come between the two of you. This is why couples that seem to know how to have a good time with one another seem to be able to weather any storms that pop up. And probably why couples who are bored with one another start to see breaking up as the best option possible.
3. If things are really serious, going to a relationship therapist might not be a bad idea.
You may look at this as being a last resort, but it doesn’t have to be that way at all. Plenty of successful couples have gone when things were not really going their way, but they were also really not ready to break up either. You don’t have to wait until things are too far gone before you decide that going to a relationship therapist might not be such a bad idea.
What men talk about is a long-standing topic of conversation among women. It’s always been a bit of a mystery, as what guys say they talk about is probably very different than what they actually talk about. Additionally, men have been known to sit in large groups watching a football game or playing video games without uttering a single word to one another. While it’s not necessarily important in a relationship to know what men talk about with one another, it can give you insight into his likes and dislikes as well as how he is truly feeling about a situation.
The more you know about your partner, the better you can understand why they do and say the things they do, which can save a relationship when times get a bit sticky. If you have a better understanding of your partner’s motivations, you can can empathize with them more when you get into arguments or conflicts.
So what is it exactly that guys talk about when they are with one another? While we may never have a completely clear picture of what kinds of discussions men have when no women are around, some men have given insight into what types of topics come up during conversation. One thing to note is that conversation between people, in general, has changed quite a bit over the last decade or two. People rely much more on technology to do the talking for them, rather than actually have an in-depth conversation with each other. Men are no different and much of the time rather than talk to one another in person, they opt for the digital route.
If they do actually get together for a game or other event, there are several things that normally come up during conversation. One thing that men usually talk about are sports, television shows, movies, or other forms of entertainment. Most men will admit to the fact that the majority of their conversations with other men aren’t very deep and that they don’t talk much about their feelings or emotions.
The one time when this seems to be untrue is when men go out for drinks and they have one too many cocktails. Sometimes when men have been drinking, their more emotional side will come out and they may want to have deeper conversations with other men – though most men won’t necessarily admit to this, nor will they get into detail about the types of emotional things they talk about when intoxicated.
When guys get together, their conversations may not be that deep, but they do share a lot about one another in their own way. Most men will admit that there is somewhat of an unspoken guy code that allows men to talk about seemingly insignificant things while leaving it open for emotional interpretation. Men do also talk about sex a fair amount, but it’s not necessarily as much of a focus as many women tend to believe. If anything, they leave women out of the conversation for the most part, likely in order to eliminate the need to talk about their emotions.
How to use your body language to attract woman?
Three men enter a bar (no this is not the start of a bad joke) one will get a phone number and the others won’t. Want to know the difference between these men? Why one will experience success and the others failure? It all comes down to body language, and using your body language to attract women. Experts tell us that anywhere from 80% – 90% of all communication is nonverbal. So what does that mean? It means that women, who are especially good at reading body language, use your body language to judge you. So body language is extremely important. Probably more important than most of us realize.
So let me tell you about these men. Man number one walks into the bar. Eyes turn, as they will and others notice him. Now he’s a shy, timid man and this shows. His head is down, his shoulders are slumped and pulled in. He enters, looks up quickly to find an empty table and then drops his head again. He walks, probably quickly to the table. If there are groups of people in his way he seems to almost slink and slide between them. In fact he seems to almost shrink to get past these people. In no way does he allow his space to invade someone else’s. Now he’s sitting at the table, he doesn’t make eye contact with the server, he barely looks up. Every person, but especially every woman in the bar has noticed this. What are they thinking? They are thinking he’s a capital ‘L’ loser. Sorry, guys but women do judge us and judge us harshly. She has completely dismissed him as a possible date or mate. Her attention is now elsewhere with only one other thought, “I really hope he doesn’t approach me.”
Now lets say this guy sees a woman he’s attracted to. Let’s say he even gets up the courage to approach her. So he stands up and starts to walk towards this woman. Again, his head is down, he walks quickly and when he reaches her he glances up for just a moment and then mumbles some kind of greeting. Now most women will be gentle with this guy. But he will be rejected. Why? Because his body language said “I’m weak, I’m timid, I’m a pushover, I’m not mate material.”
Now man number two. How’s he doing? Is he using his body language to attract women or repulse women? He enters, head held high, shoulders back and pauses to look around. He sees every woman as a possible conquest and if his eyes should meet a woman’s he doesn’t hold eye contact instead his eyes start to undress her. She feels this and looks away, uncomfortably. Other women are noticing this. He spots a table or in his case he’ll sit up at the bar. As he starts to walk or I should say strut he forces his space on others. If there are groups in his way, he pushes them aside. He’ll walk between two people talking and if it’s a man and a woman, he’ll likely try to brush his body against her’s as he struts past. His body language is telling women that he’s a bully. He’ll glare at men, challenge them to get in his way. He’ll undress women with his eyes. When he does approach a woman he dominates them. He’ll try to stand over them. He must keep women down. Women know this and just like the previous situation women want no part of this. In fact for a woman it is worse to be approached by this guy than the first. She’ll try every means possible to get away from this guy. But he’s already in her space. His hand is on her shoulder or back. She’s leaning away from him, she’s making excuses. This guys body language screams bully, it screams over compensating. Very quickly everyone woman in the place is telling other women to stay away. He’s trouble. Even the men are avoiding this guy, because they know he’s trouble. No, he is not using his body language to attract women.
Now for Man number three. This is the true Alpha. He walks in and pauses. His gaze sweeps the room. He notices everything. Where groups of people are gathered and where a woman is sitting alone. His head is high, but his chin is not jutting out. His shoulders are back, but comfortably so. As his gaze sweeps the room his eyes may make contact with someone else’s, male or female it doesn’t matter he will smile and move his gaze on. He doesn’t let it linger. There is confidence without challenge. He does not need to challenge anyone. As he walks, he walks slowly. He may chose a table or the bar. Either one is fine with him. He’ll take his time, making eye contact, smiling and moving on. He takes up space, but does not have to force his space on others. Simply because he has been noticed in a positive way, people will move out of his way as he walks through the bar. Not out of fear, but out of respect. His body language has already earned him respect and attraction. Now the women are noticing him and their attention is staying focused on him. He is confident without being arrogant. Once he’s chosen a woman to approach he’ll let her know, through body language that he is going to approach her so it’s no surprise to her. He has noticed everything about her and comments on things like her eye color or her dress. He sits with her, he does not need to tower over her in order to be noticed. He puts himself on her level as an equal to her. Now she’s interested and once interested he can now start moving into her space.
To use body language to attract a woman you must first be noticed in the right way. You start communicating with the woman the moment you enter the place. You do not dominate, but you are in control. You are confident. You’ve put yourself in a place of equal to her and now she is at ease with you. Now you can use your body language to turn the heat up. Move into her space, but do so very casually. If she makes a joke laugh and touch the back of her hand. If the two decide to move to a table he will let his hand rest lightly on her lower back, gently guiding her through the crowds and at the same time raising the heat of their encounter. He will now sit beside her, allowing his thigh to touch hers.
Notice how all of his actions are natural. They come from a place of self confidence and attraction to her. He uses his body language to attract women the moment he walks into the bar to the moment he walks out with her. Actually, he is so in tune with the power of body language and is such a natural that he uses body language in everything he does, not just to attract women.
Which man do you want to be? How to use body language to attract women can be learned and practiced and mastered.
If you want to know how it ended. Guy number one went home alone, guy number two got bounced from the bar and guy number three drove the lady home with her number in his phone and plans for the next day.
It’s a real problem for men when early ejaculation strikes, especially when it happens almost all of the time. You hate the fact that you can’t last long in the bedroom and it is driving you crazy. You know your girl is less than impressed and it is weighing on you hard. You don’t want to lose her but you feel like you might because you just can’t keep it together. What do you do?
How can you overcome early ejaculation and last longer in bed? How do you make this happen all the while avoiding harmful creams, sprays and pills on the market? How do you make this happen naturally? It’s time you learned the best techniques for men to last longer in the bedroom and that you learned them now.
The first technique is to make her orgasm first. The number one reason men feel pressure in the bedroom is due to performance anxiety. They want to last long enough to give a woman an orgasm but most men do not realize that it is hard for a woman to have an orgasm via sex unless she has a clitoral orgasm first. Therefore, you should take your time and try to make her orgasm from touching her clitoris before you have sex. If she does orgasm, then you can take comfort in knowing that you don’t have to worry about making it happen when you already did and now you can let loose and enjoy sex. Plus, the chances of her having an orgasm again are much higher now that she has already had one.
The next technique to make sex last longer is to use a tingling lubricant. Similar to desensitizing creams, tingling lubricant will numb your penis and allow you to last longer, without any of the weird side effects. You will be able to feel less pleasure, but still enough to make it satisfying and on the plus side, you give your woman a sensation she will never forget. Not only will it tingle her g-spot, but also if you apply a little to her clitoris, it will send shockwaves throughout her body and send her totally over the edge. This will also help her to orgasm more. You can purchase this at any drugstore. Just look for the tingling one. Warming won’t help you out. It will just make you orgasm faster.
The final technique to make sex last longer and overcome early ejaculation is to learn to relax. Sex is fun and the more you stress about it, the more something is going to go wrong. You need to learn to relax and to realize that sometimes, things won’t go the way you want them to and other times, they will blow your expectations out of the water. Try meditation as a means to get more relaxation in your life. It will help you to feel at ease. You can also practice tantric sex as a means to gain more stamina. Some men who are veterans at it have said to been able to last for days on end. So it’s worth a shot!
The issue of premature ejaculation is something that men all over the world are forced to deal with as soon as they become intimate with the one that they care about it and you know exactly what this feels like. You want to impress your girl and you want to give her the best time of her life. You just never seem to be able to make it last long enough and it is terribly frustrating.
So you wonder to yourself, “what can I do to make sex last longer?” This is a question that you are desperate to have answered. You don’t want to feel this way anymore and you want to give her what she is after and that is intense lovemaking that lasts.
In order to make sex last longer, you need to learn these best techniques to stop early ejaculation once and for all and you can do that tonight. Instead of wishing that you were a stallion in the bedroom, it’s time that you made it a reality.
First and foremost, the best technique to stop early ejaculation is to stop it before it even becomes an issue. This means that you need to prevent it rather than treat it in the moment. Then, you have more control and you are able to react better in the situation. It takes the pressure off of your shoulders because you wont’ even have to worry about your performance since everything will be smoothed over before you even have sex.
The first way to make this happen is to take the pressure off and you can do this by giving your girl an orgasm before you have sex. Chances are, your biggest concern is that you can’t last long enough to make her orgasm, well, what if you did it before you had sex? Wouldn’t that feel better and take the pressure off?
Try going down on her with oral sex to get her going well before you have sex. Then, you won’t feel so much pressure and you won’t be thinking about it as much. You will be able to enjoy sex for what it is worth. As an added bonus, when a woman does have an orgasm, she is able to have another orgasm a lot faster and that is great news for you during sex. Her g-spot will be swollen and prime, ready for you to enter her.
Another way to make sure sex lasts longer and stop early ejaculation once and for all is to masturbate before anything even happens. Masturbation is a wonderful technique to take the edge off and it will help you to relieve some stress and tension. Plus, it puts your body into the refractory stage, which inhibits your ability to have an orgasm. So now, it will take you nearly double the time to get aroused and to orgasm and it all happens naturally.
You don’t have to be embarrassed or worry about sex when there are easy and natural ways to combat against PE today.
A lot of men hang out in clubs to search for beautiful women. Yet, bars and clubs are not the only places where you can meet attractive women. Other places you never thought possible, could actually promise to hook you up with beautiful and attractive ladies.
In The Bookstore
Bookstores are not only for geeks but also for beautiful, intellectual women. What is even better at meeting ladies in bookstores is that in here, they are often by themselves. You can easily approach her without having to go through a barrier of friends. Women you find in bookstores are often open-minded and liberated in their perception. You will find them not only in sections of romance books, but also intimacy books.
In Educational Venues
You are definitely going to find these ladies at lecture halls, seminars, workshops and other informational, educational classes including dance and yoga. A lot of women today are no longer bound by gender discrimination. Like most men, they also want to seek for knowledge that will enhance their self-worth. If you are looking for open-minded and creative ladies, then you might consider enrolling for some classes too. Another good thing about some of these classes (like for self-improvement) is that there are only a few men participating. Thus, you have less or even zero competition to deal with.
At The Grocery Store
Almost all of us need to shop and buy our household and food supplies; so there is actually a big chance that you will meet women when you go to grocery stores. You probably want to consider visiting organic food stores so that you can cross paths with the sexy ladies conscious about their physical fitness and overall health. With so many grocery stores around, you could even have your pick on which store to have your lookout.
At The Gym
Indeed, the gym is not just a territory for men. Men are not the only ones who like to get fit. Women are also conscious about their fitness and figure. Besides, what you will find in gyms could be the elite or the top 10 percent of women who are fitness-conscious and are quite meticulous at maintaining their slim, sexy figures. In most instances, women who work out in gyms are single and young. The advantage of meeting women here is that equipments are placed alongside one another. You can easily start a conversation with a girl who happens to be using the machine next to yours. Plus, you get to see that women again day after day. It is highly possible she is also familiar with your face because she also often sees you in that gym.
Train systems are also ideal places for searching beautiful ladies to meet. Yet, you have to ensure you move quite smoothly because some women are actually wary of meeting strangers in public places like the subways.
In The Park
Public parks are also among the great places for meeting people. Usually, the park is where some women go jogging. If you can, you can also wear your running outfit and shoes to suavely run along a beautiful lady. Another scenario for an encounter is to walk with your pet dog in the park. It is very likely that you will see a beautiful girl who is also walking her own pet dog in the park.
Wanting to get back with your ex girlfriend is not something that you might readily share with just anyone, so it can end up being one of those situations where you feel kind of alone and like you don’t know where to get some good advice on what to do. And, when you DO search out advice on how to get an ex back, you are often greeted with tips that sound kind of plausible, but are usually not that effective at all at actually producing the result that you want. So, if you really want to know what it is that you need to do if you want your ex girlfriend back, listen up.
Here are a few tips that you need to know:
1. The strategy of trying to plead your way back into her heart is definitely not the most effective one that you can try.
It’s probably the most commonly used strategy, but it hardly ever works and there is a good reason for that. Love is all about emotion and when you plead with someone, you are not speaking to them on an emotional level. You are speaking to them on a logical level and that is not going to work if you want to get back with your ex girlfriend. So, if you have thought about pleading with her to give you another chance – you might want to try something else instead.
2. It’s not really a bad thing to want your ex back and still have an eye open for someone else as well.
One mistake that is often made is when a guy gets tunnel vision for his ex girlfriend and doesn’t even consider the possibility of dating someone else. For one thing, you don’t want to let your ex girlfriend know that you are going to be an option for her no matter how long she takes. That’s just going to encourage her to take her time, not to come back to you. You also don’t want to exclude the possibility that as much as you love your ex girlfriend, that there might be someone else out there that you might get along with just as well and be just as attracted to.
3. The best way to make your ex girlfriend come back to you is to work with her female psychology, not against it.
A lot of the strategies and tips on getting back an ex girlfriend don’t really correspond with a woman’s psychology, particularly the psychology of attraction. You don’t want to end up working against her psychology, you want to work WITH it. That is going to make things that much easier for you and will help SPEED things up.
If you are questioning as to whether or not the relationship you are in is one you should stay in, then keep reading on to find out the ways you can tell if you are in an unhealthy relationship. All good relationships are based on the person’s ability to relate as well as communicate with one another. But once the ability to relate and communicate with one another goes away because of the day to day circumstances and pressures, this is when things can take a turn for the worst.
2 Signs That Your Relationship is Failing
Every relationship expert, psychologist, dating coach, matchmaker etc. will tell you that the very first step to a successful relationship is communication. Nothing builds a healthier relationship than proper communication. If you both lack effective communication as a couple due to anger, distance, grudges, misunderstanging etc, then you will miss out on a happy and fulfilling relationship. Imagine pouring your heart and soul out to your partner only to have them meet you with hurtful words and even worst of all a blank stare! It is very hard to be in a situation where somebody refuses and resists listening to you and considering your emotional needs. The first step to fixing an unhealthy relationship is to first analyze if its even worth fixing. Go back in time with where you both started in order to talk things out and figure out where you both went wrong.
The second way to tell if you are in an unhealthy union is through your lost bond. Emotional distance is a big factor within any healthy relationship and ultimately you want the distance to be as little as possible. The bond between a couple is a major ingredient of their happiness, most happy couples typically have very miniscule emotional distance ( hey, relationships are not perfect). In order to feel content and secure in what you have, you need to be able to trust the other person with your sentiments, thoughts and emotions. Nowadays with the rise of social media sites, longer working hours and increased socializing, the emoitional distance between many couples is growing in size. The leading cause of emotional infidelity or infidelity in general is the decrease of or the lack of an emotional connection. It is thus best to share your feelings and thoughts with your partner if you want your relationship to last through the good and the bad.
Lack of Intimacy
Intimacy is a major part of any healthy relationship. And getting stuck in the rut of an unhalthy union can really kill your intimacy as a couple. Pain, disillusionment and suffering are all symptoms of a relationship that lacks intimacy. If a couple does not have intimacy within their relationship, then this will tear them further away from each other as the relationship becomes deprived of the one main ingredient that holds most successful relationships together (think of it as the egg that keeps the dough together).
Even though by reading the above you realize that as a couple you are less than perfect, keep in mind that if you believe you have something great, it will be worth the fight. Perhaps the bond you once had together can be revived with time and work. It is never too late to repair a lost connection.